Lies about forgiveness you have started to believe

1. Forgiveness is something to be earned

If you are holding back forgiveness because your offender has not earned it yet, stop it. That is not how it works. Forgiveness is not something that can or should be bought or earned. It is more a gift to yourself than it is to the person that has wronged you. Forgiveness frees you from anger and hatred that poisons your soul.

2. Forgiving means for getting

If you can forget an offense made against you, great. However, do not think that the inability to forget means you cannot forgive. Some things are impossible to erase from our memories no matter how hard we try.